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You’ve been working long days all week. You finally go home and, even though it’s Friday night, you’re too tired to even make it to the local bar. The thought of even trying to find romance in your life right now seems impossible considering you live at your office. And, yes, we know your coworker Steve has made it very clear that he is available for dates with you, but you actually have dignity. What you don’t have is time.

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Lately, I’ve been questioning whether singles who are members of online dating sites really want to meet someone and create a real relationship that goes from online to offline, or just spend time hanging out in cyberspace. It appears that many daters are suffering from a relationship syndrome called ODF, the acronym for online dating fatigue. It can also be defined as IDF, Internet dating fatigue.
While I might sound like eHarmony’s founder Neil Clark Warren, who wrote an article on Huffington Post, On Second Thought, Don’t Get Married, where I’m telling online daters that they might need to take a break as well, there’s some truth to ODF. In Warren’s article, he questioned whether marriage has become obsolete. The article is still being talked about and was shared by over 4000 people on Facebook and Twitter and “liked” by over 13,000 people. Something to ponder.
As an online dating expert and coach, I’m not suggesting you should abandon online dating completely, but instead consider taking a break and return refreshed, along with a new set of rules and digital tools that might increase your chances of success. Just as athletes get muscle fatigue, daters do get online dating fatigue.
In my coaching practice, I meet singles and divorcee’s who are already fed up with the process. There are several reasons why I believe they’re suffering from ODF, and am here to provide some suggestions and online dating tips that just might wake you up from the exhausting process.
1. You’re tired of logging on and coming up empty handed.
You go to the gym three times a week, meet your friends for drinks twice a week, and spend an hour a day logging on to your online dating account to view photos of eligible singles. You hand pick 10 men or women to write to and take the time to personalize the subject line. The result is, no one ever writes back. You don’t know why they weren’t interested, wondered if they had an inactive profile where they couldn’t read your email, or were testing the waters with a few others and would consider you for the future. You diligently send emails more often-than-not, and still wake up to an empty inbox. It’s discouraging, I know. You feel like it’s a chore.
2. You’re tired of trying to create interesting introduction emails.
You know you’re smart, witty, and have that great sense of humor everyone advertises that they’re looking for. Yet, you find it hard to write an introduction email that will be catchy and stand out. You didn’t grow up wanting to be a copywriter, so your personality doesn’t shine. As a result, you spend less time logging on. Finding a date or a mate goes down a notch or two on the totem pole. You’ve worked hard all day at work. You really don’t want to work that hard when you get home. The end result is, you lose interest. You’re suffering from ODF.
Take for example *Mike (name changed), who has been sending the same 770 word count email about himself for four years to women promising a lifetime of happiness. He wrote a novel with over 50 sentences to introduce himself.
Chances are Mike never reads the profiles of the pretty faces he views. He diligently copies the same email daily and sends it cold to women with a shotgun approach. His subject line is empty and says, (none). Sure online dating is a numbers game, but if you aren’t an educated player, your email may end up deleted by the third sentence. I finally had to tell him, “Copy + paste = erase” and suggested that he leave the novel at home. He didn’t appreciate my constructive criticism and is still single to this day.
3. You’re too picky.
If anyone has ever suggested that you might be too picky, chances are, they’re right. Your list may be so long on your profile, that it discourages would-be suitors to find someone more easy-going. If your search parameters are too narrow, it’s rare that you’ll find a compatible partner, online or offline.
Take *Janie for example. She’s a vivacious woman with a lot to offer a man. She has a successful career, beautiful home, loves to cook, and really wanted to fall in love. She came to me as a last resort, having been single for a decade. I looked at her profile and her search requirements were so limiting. She only wanted to meet a man who lived within a five-mile radius of where she resided. Her age parameters only spanned five years. It was an impossible task with unrealistic expectations. She didn’t realize it, but she was too picky. We broadened her search to 40 miles and expanded her age range to 12-years, 6 older and 6 younger than herself. She’s now dating someone age-appropriate who lives a town away. Are you too picky? If so, it’s time to cast a wider net.
4. You’re unavailable.
You wouldn’t send a resume looking for your dream job without an email and phone contact for the recruiter to call you for the job interview, so you shouldn’t be so difficult to reach to set up a date.
Take *Bill, a handsome and successful man as an example. He always makes a good first impression in his introductory emails. He sends the women his phone number along with a message telling them that he’s only available to speak at 12pm and 9pm. Most people have busy lives, both personally and professionally. So if a woman called Bill outside of those two limited time slots, they’d not only get his voicemail, but he also had “call intercept” on his line requesting that you announce yourself before he’d pick up the call. Pre-screening your date’s inbound phone call is a netiquette no-no. Of course most of the women hung up. Bill’s still single. A little more flexibility and removing call intercept on his phone to make time for love might help with his search. If you want to get on his or her date card, you need to move the process along from the initial email and find the time to put a real date on the calendar.
5. You’ve gone on too many first dates.
You’ve managed to pass the dating filters, sent a few emails and text messages back-and-forth, and the first phone call went well. You dined at a restaurant that you hoped might impress him or her. The process took about two weeks, but it seems you never graduate to a second date. While the reasons may vary, most include:
He or she didn’t look like their photo
There was no chemistry
He or she never called again
He or she didn’t respond to your text or email message
You thought the first date went well. They laughed at your jokes and said they’d like to see you again. You spent precious resources of time and money on the dating process with no return on your investment.

SPRINGFIELD — — If Shannon Showalter turned to the Internet to find love today, she’d like to know whether the men posting profiles had undergone background checks.

“It has become such a popular thing, and there are a lot of weirdos out there,” said Showalter, a 32-year-old from northwest suburban Lakewood who met the man she married on Match.com.

It’s that lingering need for some measure of assurance that lawmakers in Illinois and across the nation are seeking to address.

Legislation that’s surfaced in Springfield would require online dating services operating in Illinois to post prominently and repeatedly on their websites whether they do background checks on clients.

If approved, the Illinois measure would go beyond disclosure laws already in place in a handful of states like Texas, where Gov. Rick Perry signed a similar bill last year before launching his Republican presidential bid.

The issue of safety in online dating is more than academic, a point buttressed by cases pending in Cook County.

In one, a North Side public relations executive who used a dating site to meet women for drinks was accused in September of sexually assaulting two of his dates, one in a Lincoln Park parking garage.

In a 2010 case, a California transplant who took up residence on Lake Shore Drive stands accused of bilking $225,000 from a Wilmette widow he met online and allegedly wooed with false promises of high-yield investments. Before he was accused of stealing her money, he was accused of taking millions of dollars from celebrities and professional athletes.

Not everyone, of course, will have a track record of bad behavior that would pop up in a background check. The North Side man accused of being a rapist, for example, had no prior record, according to authorities, but the other man had a record of securities charges that might have been detected.

Despite meeting several successful women, former online dater Al Martinez of northwest suburban Inverness said he supports the legislation because he’s heard too many bad stories. “It’s just too easy to go south,” said Martinez, 54.

Jonathan and Karrah Cambry are unsure of the need for government intervention. The Chicago couple Googled each other before turning their dating site flirtation into a face-to-face situation. They dated for more than a year and got married in October.

She is wary of how invasive the legislation might be, suggesting a crime committed during someone’s youth could unfairly keep them off the site.

The Illinois measure would force dating sites to disclose to customers whether they run criminal background checks before users can start contacting potential dates.

Dating services that say they do background checks would need to search government databases such as criminal court records and sex offender registries. Sites also would have to say what they do when they find someone with a record, including whether they allow such a person to be in the company’s dating pool.

In addition, the sites would need to post a variety of safety tips, ranging from warnings that background checks are not foolproof to suggestions not to put a home address on the website. Many sites already post such advice.

Companies that fail to follow the requirements — or that say they do background checks when they don’t — would violate state laws against consumer fraud and deceptive business practices. Each violation would carry a potential fine of up to $50,000.

Six years ago, a similar push to provide a modicum of regulation to online dating sites passed the Illinois House and then stalled.

Now Sen. Ira Silverstein is taking a crack at passing the measure in the Senate. Silverstein acknowledged the bill isn’t foolproof, but argued the legislation has merit because it would set up a new level of consumer protection with dating sites.

“They’re offering a service,” said Silverstein, D-Chicago. “There should be some due diligence.”

In the House, Rep. Michelle Mussman, D-Schaumburg, introduced a similar bill this week.

Rep. Jim Sacia, a former FBI agent, said he would oppose the latest version unless online dating services committed to having high-quality background checks performed by law enforcement authorities like the state police or FBI.

“My greatest fear would be the false sense of security,” said Sacia, R-Pecatonica.

At least two nationally known services, Match.com and eHarmony, screen subscribers against public sex offender registries. Doing so has helped eHarmony keep many known offenders off its site, the company said in a statement.

True.com, another major dating service, says it runs even more thorough background checks on applicants, searching state and county databases for felony and sex offense convictions. The site turns away about 2 percent of potential customers because they are convicted felons, sex offenders or married, company president Ruben Buell said.

State Senate OKs online dating safeguards
Legislation on background checks goes to the House

SPRINGFIELD — — The Illinois Senate passed legislation Wednesday requiring online dating sites to say whether they perform criminal background checks on prospective members.

“They’re doing business in Illinois. They should protect Illinois consumers,” said the bill’s sponsor, Sen. Ira Silverstein, D-Chicago.

The legislation, which passed 42-9, also would require dating services that say they conduct background checks to use government databases, including criminal court records and sex offender registries. In addition, the sites also would have to say whether they allow someone with a criminal record to sign up.

Furthermore, the legislation would require sites to post safety tips, including warnings that background checks aren’t foolproof and suggestions to leave their addresses off the sites. Several companies already post this advice.

Sites that fail to follow the requirements or that lie about conducting background checks could face fines of up to $50,000 per violation.

Sen. Kwame Raoul, D-Chicago, voted against the bill, saying it stretches the government’s influence too far.

“We’re trying to legislate getting in people’s dating patterns and their relationships and whether they use online dating and making sure that they’re safe,” he said. “We’re not the mom and dad here in the legislature.”

A former federal prosecutor, Sen. Darin LaHood, R-Dunlap, also opposed the measure, questioning whether the bill adequately addressed how to track companies outside of Illinois and enforce penalties.

The legislation now moves to the House, where a similar bill has won committee approval.

In other action, the Senate sent to the House bills to:

•Give employers tax breaks for hiring unemployed military veterans who have served since the Sept. 11, 2001, terrorist attacks.

•Require public schools to have annual inspections of driver’s education cars that are at least 5 years old or have at least 75,000 miles.

Welcome. This online dating guide is five thousands words long covering everything possible with online dating.
I guarantee you will NOT find a more detailed post anywhere else on the web.
It took me around 8 hours to write this. The best way to use this dating guide is to scan for areas of interest. I have covered everything from the best dating sites, to profile writing, messaging, dos and dont’s, and dating courses that kick ass. You should get a lot of value out of this. With that said, let’s get into it!

—–INTRO—–

Online dating: It used to be the territory of the desperate, timid, and socially awkward a decade ago right?
Let’s throw in some people from the witness protection agency too for fun. Now-a-days though there has been an explosion of dating sites. They are as common as Starbucks and about as popular too. No doubt, online dating has become the modern day match maker (online dating results in about 33% of all US marriages!). Instead of having your aunt preach the virtues of this girl she meet (or this guy), online dating sites now make for a “do it yourself” solution…which is all the more reason you need online dating advice and online dating tips to help guide you.

The biggest question most ask…
is how and where do you meet people that are date worthy? Once you’re done with school and you’re working full time it gets more challenging. Are you really going to meet the love of your life at a bar? At a friends party? Maybe haphazardly when you’re strolling through the mall? Sure, why not. Crazier things have happened…but why put it to chance alone? This is why online dating has such a level of popularity. It gives you direct power over your dating life.

It can be difficult to meet quality people if you’re single and on your own.
Learning how to date online is useful because if you choose to ignore it, you’re missing out on a wonderful way to meet a variety of people you may never would otherwise. Stop looking at dating sites with skepticism and prejudice and learn how to leverage online dating sites and have fun with it.

Online dating is your personal catalog of willing and available persons.
The awesome thing about online dating is it acts as a catalog of men and women in every shape size and color. You can literally browse other human beings by category: White, Black, Asian, mix, other. Set predefined height limits, set up filters on who can talk to you and who can not. You can also check out the new arrivals or view the clearance section. Categories also allow you to browse by whatever is your “type” is. Personality? Character? Ambition? Who cares! I only date black guys or white guys or blond women or Asian chicks!

Internet dating exposes you to more variety. It allows you to meet girls and guys you otherwise would not.
Plain and simple this is the strongest reason to use a dating site (and is specifically why I use online dating in conjunction with going out). You meet girls/guys all the time, but when you do the same thing week after week, the same 3 bars, the same 4 clubs, in the same 3 towns over and over. The variety starts to dwindle, you find yourself meeting the same type of person over and over again. Online dating can help break this cycle up. Maybe you’ll meet the busy entrepreneur who works all the time and never gets out, maybe you’ll meet that beautiful family/career oriented girl who doesn’t like bars, or maybe you’ll meet the 35 yr old who live at home with mom and dad and doesn’t go out because he has no friends. There is risk in online dating, but if you arm yourself with the right online dating tips and online dating advice you increase the potential that you might me someone great.

—–DATING SITES—–

So what are you looking for?
Dating sites cater to different crowds, and there are a ton of different ones to choose from…but quantity does not mean quality. Some sites like Singlesnet are filled with fake profiles, other sites like Eharmony are a total rip off because only paying members can message on another. When it comes to dating, if you actually want to meet someone just stick to the top paid dating site, or the top two free dating sites and save yourself some hassle. I also included Suggar Daddie because I have spoken with quite a few women who have deveoloped a relationship with a well to do man and are very satisfied with the service.

Trust me, I recommend the following because they are the most effective in terms of finding a date and potentially a relationship and are not a total rip off:

Online Dating: A Bad Equilibrium
When going on a first date, we try to achieve a delicate balance between expressing ourselves, learning about the other person and not offending anyone — favoring friendly over controversial, even at the risk of sounding dull. This approach might be best exemplified by an amusing quote from the film Best in Show: “We have so much in common, we both love soup and snow peas, we love the outdoors, and talking and not talking. We could not talk or talk forever and still find things to not talk about.” Basically, in an attempt to coordinate on the right dating strategy, we stick to universally shared interests like food or the weather. It’s easy to talk about our views on mushroom and anchovies, and the topic arises easily over dinner at a pizzeria. Still, that doesn’t guarantee a stimulating conversation, and it certainly doesn’t guarantee a real measure of our long-term romantic match.

This is what economists call a bad equilibrium: it is a strategy that all the players in the game can adopt and converge on, but it is not a desirable outcome for anyone.

We decided to look at this problem in the context of online dating. We picked apart emails sent between online daters, prepared to dissect the juicy details of first introductions. And we found a general trend supporting the idea that people like to maintain boring equilibrium at all costs. We found a lot of people who may, in actuality, have interesting things to say, but presented themselves as utterly insipid in their written conversations. The dialogue was boring, consisting mainly of questions like, “Where did you go to college?” or “What are your hobbies?” or “What is your line of work?” and so on.

We sensed a compulsion to avoid rocking the boat, and so we decided to push these hesitant daters overboard. What did we do? We limited the type of discussions that online daters could engage in by eliminating their ability to ask anything that they wanted and giving them a preset list of questions they were allowed to ask. The questions we chose had nothing to do with the weather and how many brothers and sisters they have, and instead were interesting and personally revealing (i.e. “How many romantic partners have you had?” or “Have you ever broken someone’s heart?”). Our daters had to choose questions from the list to ask another dater, and could not ask anything else. They were forced to risk it by posing questions that are considered outside of generally accepted bounds. And their partners responded, creating much livelier conversations than we had seen when daters came up with their own questions. Instead of talking about the World Cup or their favorite desserts, they shared their innermost fears or told the story of losing their virginity. Both sender and replier were happier with the interaction.
Use it to your advantage
What we learned from this little experiment is that when people are free to choose what type of discussions they want to have, they often gravitate toward an equilibrium that is easy to maintain but one that no one really enjoys or benefits from. The good news is that if we restrict the options, we can get people to gravitate toward behaviors that are better for everyone (more generally, this suggests that some restricted marketplaces can yield more desirable outcomes).

And what can you do personally with this idea? Think about what you can do to make sure that your discussions are not the boring-and-not-risky type. Maybe set the rules of discussion upfront and get your partner to agree that tonight you will only ask questions and talk about things you are truly interested in. You can agree to ask five difficult questions first, instead of wasting time talking about your favorite colors. Or maybe you can create a list of topics that are not allowed. By forcing people to step out of their comfort zone and risk tipping the relationship equilibrium, we might ultimately gain more.

Cities have become more multicultural in recent years. People from different backgrounds, including religious, racial and cultural backgrounds are all living together in many large environments. The dating scene in your area will have many different people in these groups, and in some cases you could end up going on a date with someone who is different from you in these terms. If you are going to go cross-cultural dating be sure that you know what you are going to do.

First, when cross-cultural dating you should not try to pretend to understand what your date’s culture is about. Odds are good your date may not fully get your culture either, so cross-cultural dating can be a learning experience. If you are going to go on a date with someone of a different culture you should look and see what you can learn about the culture before asking the person out.

Cross-cultural dating can be tough the first time around with someone, but it is still important to be respectful of the date’s culture. Don’t get too questioning unless the person is willing to be open to you.

One of the top concerns about cross-cultural dating involves knowing what to say. These are some things that some cultures do not want to talk about at a certain point in a relationship. If your date is not giving you any interest in what you are talking about you will need to try and hold off on the topic of discussion until the date is willing to talk about it.

If you are able to talk with your date about cultural differences while cross-cultural dating, be sure to be frank and easy. Don’t talk about differences unless you and your date both feel comfortable about it.

Etiquette in cross-cultural dating is important. Some terms that you use in your daily speech may be offensive in the culture of your date. You can search for information on terms and how they have different meanings in other cultures online.

Also, you should not force your date to think the same way or follow the same cultural ideas or rules as what you have. Be sure not to be defensive in the discussion, and keep a good discussion about how you differ from another culture. You can share your experiences and interests with your date, but that should be only if your date is interested.

The last tip for cross-cultural dating is to be willing to see if your date is feeling pressured by your cultural differences. It is important to see that your date is willing to accept how you are behaving, and in some cases the person may feel difficult about how you are treating that person.

Remember, nearly everyone you meet in cross-cultural dating will be willing to forgive you if you make any mistakes when trying to understand the person’s culture. It’s a big world out there, and not everyone is alike, so a mistake will be easy to forgive.

Confidence and arrogance are two different things thou there is only a really thin line between the two. Arrogance is simply too much confidence and for girls arrogance is it is a really big turn off. Confidence is like “I believe I can do my best” mind setting while arrogance is like “I am the gift to God to the ladies”. So when can we say that we went over board?

To understand it better, here are some few examples:

1) Too Flashy

So what if you have a great paying job or a good earning business stop lauding it over by opening your wallet and show how much greens you have with you. Being grateful with your fortune is nice but being too flashy is not. The same applies with jewelry and accessories. So void wearing too much accessories and looking like a Christmas tree on a summer night out. For all we know too many accessories only attract hookers and not the girl of your dreams.

2) Too Self Centered

Stop acting like you are the only one who is knowledgeable. Even if you have studied and have a great passion about something, you have to accept that someone knows more than you, and someone is better than you. Save yourself from humiliation and ridicule. So the next time you are in a conversation with a hot babe, listen and who know you might get a lot from her. And besides, dating is not about telling and talking about yourself, it is about knowing the other party and building a connection with her.

Those who have met by an unplanned meeting or with the help of dating sites would tend to be relatively unknown to each other. But once they have come into contact their desire to meet frequently may rise. Here the possibilities of converting the dating into a long lasting relationship emerge.

There are factors which affects in making a man and a woman becoming so close. The most important factor is the ‘attraction’ they feel towards each other.

The first factor that cements the relationship is the attraction that a man and a woman feel towards each other. It is the element that acts like a force between two people that tends to draw them together and resist their separation.

You are dating a person; you should take a note of the factors that has made you attracted towards him or her. If you can locate the very reason of your being so attracted to him or her, it would surely help cementing the relationship. The mere dating schedule would simply become a concrete time table for a long lasting relationship.

Knowing about the other dating partner would help in many ways. If you find any particular thing that your partner is interested in, you can make yourself familiarise with that factor and ease your way for a better relationship. Suppose if your dating partner like reading novels written by Charles Dickens, you can get one of his novels and read it for discussing the same at a coffee table with your dating partner.

If practiced positively, such a thing would help very positively in building up a lasting relationship based on similar interests in life.

Who am I to judge? I used to be judgmental toward dating sites. For me they were taboo. I could never relate to how people could choose someone online for a date. My opinion was, you meet a date or future partner the natural way. Natural? I mean, through school, college, university, workplace, parties, through friends, relatives, business meetings, seminars.

So, some years ago, when a close friend went online to find a date, of course I would question why. Well actually, it was more like, “how could you do it!” Of course, these were just my thoughts at the time and proved myself to be totally wrong some years later. Sure, I had seen many advertisements for internet dating services for singles of all ages, however, that was for them not for me nor anyone I knew. It was my lack of knowledge about dating sites which obviously gave me a somewhat negative belief about dating online.

My opinion of using a dating site did not count with my friend however. My opinion was just my beliefs I had formed about online dating sites, not his. Where my beliefs about online dating came from, I really do not know. It was just an idea in my head. Maybe I had a closed mind. Fixity in thinking. Anyway my friend knew what he wanted to do. He wanted a few casual dates to have a girl to take out for company, have some fun and see what it may lead to. He had the advantage of an open mind. Seek and you may find! He had nothing to lose, in fact he gained some great experiences and fun times. In hindsight, his attitude to online dating was ideal. He did not have any negative beliefs about online dating. His attitude to singles online was neutral to positive I expect. Offline, my friend had been through some great and long-lasting relationships, had more than enough opportunities to get married. However, he was never ready at the time and never committed.

So now, some years later, being past the nightclub stage, busy at work and with other activities, my friend found it easier to find an internet dating site when he found himself single after a recent relationship ending and wanting a girl to take out. His attitude was it is easier to find who you are looking for in a partner when you go online. (This was something I did not realise until a good few years later when I subscribed to a dating site myself). With my friend, the first few dates were trial and error, not quite right for more than one or two meetings. No time wasted, it was a night out, both parties had an experience, a chance to meet someone who might be great for outings, friendship and maybe ongoing partnership. If not, refine your search online and find another partner who may be more suitable, maybe your soul-mate!

A year or two would pass and my friend had tried several dates online through 2 or 3 different internet dating services. Once he knew what he was looking for in a dating partner, online dates were fun, lasting more than just one date, sometimes turning into several dates or friendship. One or two dates lasted for 1 year or more. The current online date has been over 1 year now. He found someone to match the same ideals, spirituality, exercise interests and goals he had. With the ever improving features online dating sites offered, he could find a date quickly and with ease to suit his character requirements in a girl.

With the sophistication of online dating sites, you can do personality tests and compatibility tests. If you are into astrology, you can find your match based on astrology, education, locality, you name it. The advantage of internet dating is you can fill out specifically what type of personality you are and what type of person you are looking for. Specifics are almost unlimited, within reason, to find your ideal match, or close to it. I have since known many other people who are members of dating sites and have met some great friends and formed ongoing relationships, including blissful marriage. Fast forward to 2011, and now 2012 and my original beliefs about internet dating have drastically changed. I developed from having a lack of knowledge and understanding of online dating and what type of people were members to realising all types of people from a wide variety of background, skills, education join dating sites.

Over the years, my knowledge of dating site advantages, success stories and features had drastically changed. I previously had no idea of the benefits internet dating services could bring to people. Furthermore, after subscribing to a few dating agencies to see what they were “all about”, After subscribing to a dating site for free, I let it go and thought I would look through its members another time. The next day in my inbox, I received some recommended suitable matches the dating service recommended for me! I was not expecting email, and was pleasantly surprised. A great mix of girls with a variety of interests, talents and backgrounds. This was amazing. I could now see the advantages of using a dating site to find an ideal partner or compatible date.

I have been an avid reader of motivational and metaphysical books for many years, and have always struggled with the topic of changing beliefs. I always found it difficult to understand how to change my beliefs, and I had a few limiting beliefs I drastically wanted to change. So I read every motivational book that I could get my hands on how to change one’s beliefs. You name it, I revisited Anthony Robbins Unlimited Power, John Kehoe’s books, T. Harv Eker tapes and book, Louise Hay and many more. I was trying to understand how to find and change my various limiting beliefs. I never found the process easy to understand and harder still to implement. I also played audio’s and DVDs on beliefs change and even had a few NLP private sessions. However, I found the processes too difficult. The simplest method was John Kehoe’s which I really liked for the simplistic approach.

The hardest part for me was finding or understanding what my limiting beliefs really were!

As it turned out, the best lesson I ever received about changing ones beliefs was seeing my own beliefs change about internet dating. To change my beliefs about dating, I did not have to do any mind exercises, I did not have to revisit my past for any positive nor negative experiences to work with. All I did was see and witness, over a period of time. Seeing people I know have positive experiences from finding their ideal partner online. Reading or hearing of stories of people who found their ideal partner and marriage through internet dating. Witnessing the features internet dating sites advertised on their sites to help members find their ideal match or soul-mate.

After approximately 5 years, the foundation of my old beliefs about online dating were completely shattered. New beliefs had formed with rock solid foundations. Just like my motivational and metaphysical gurus said. I finally understood how changing beliefs worked to such a powerful and positive outcome. If I can change my beliefs this way over Internet Dating Sites, then I can use this same model to find other limiting beliefs and change them powerfully to improve other areas of my life.

My beliefs about internet dating sites are now positive. I now see online dating sites as a way to bring education about dating, relationships, happiness and joy to singles, seniors and all its many members. The services can really empower people to build wonderful relationships and live happier lives. I personally have learned a lot of tips on how to have fun and exciting dates. This information can be used with your fiance or wife to keep your relationship stimulated.

My changed attitude about internet dating is a classic case of what you resist persists. Something I often witness in people and myself. This changed attitude is also my own best real life example of how beliefs can change for the positive, and how simple it can be to change a belief, if one has an open mind and enough reasons to shake the foundations of the old belief loose until it crumbles, making way for the new, more empowering beliefs to take root.

I now intend to use my changed belief example to find other limiting beliefs I have, and find new evidence to shake the old foundations loose and begin building more empowering beliefs. I have finally understood the lesson my gurus were teaching me about belief change, this is truly my aha moment.

I hope that by reading my experience helps you understand the power of beliefs, and makes you aware of some of your own beliefs and how they may be limiting you. Changing your beliefs does not have to take years like it did for me with dating sites. I did not intentionally change my beliefs in this example. So imagine how fast you can change beliefs once you have the intention. You just need to find new reasons to support your new beliefs. These new ideas, if looked at regularly and believed, will shake the foundation of your old negative beliefs. Eventually the new belief becomes stronger and stronger until it works in your favor subconsciously. To your success at changing any negative beliefs you may have!

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